When someone does wrong to you or others, and you encounter it, how do you cope with having to be the bigger person in the situation?
How do become the bigger person in the situation ? is it holding your tongue ? is it bringing it to their attention making it known that what they did or doing is wrong and pointing it out to them?
The bigger person is it the one who handles the situation in a mature way rather than the petty circumstances we find ourselves in from time to time. I can’t settle my mind when things to this affect start to bother me , either seeing it or someone has done me wrong somehow. Maybe its just me and I’m making a bigger fuss but how can someone on the outside looking in or someone doing you wrong be okay….
Its not okay what they are doing of coarse not, but could you be the one to say something and point out the obvious to call them out on their wrong doings. Just keeping your mouth shut and keep going on with your day, one option more confrontational while the other is the passive route of the two. If you do decide to tell said person, their is always different less threatening ways to still get your point across, for example letting it be known you know of their indiscretions against you , that you may not have meant for them to take it in an ill type of way, but since they did you apologies.
Some of you may be thinking how are you going to apologies to them when they did you wrong well i’m getting to that …
You should let them know, after you have apologized, that the way they handled the situation wasn’t a respectable or commendable to say that least and any relationship, personal or professional, be just that or nothing at all. I know that may sound harsh, but at the end of the day no matter how many people say they are looking out for you , you still only really have your self when it comes to the end of the string.
If it comes between someone else feelings, well-being, or moral standards, then in some situations you are going to have to choose between them or you. Am I willing to twist my own moral compass to be okay with what this person did , or is doing, to me? Should I have to feel down and in the dumps as a repercussion of this persons problems or problems they have created? Should I put my life on the line for some one that clearly wouldn’t do the same ?
And if you have to convince your self, by telling yourself multiple times that oh yeah they would do this or oh yeah they would do that… without any reason they gave you to think that no physical proof they have given you a reason to believe that. Then the only person your hurting is yourself for believing in that person.
If the person is willing to fix or at least try to fix the problems they are creating that is someone worth fighting for, you should keep that person . If you can see signs of them falling back call them out, maybe its just an act. But don’t ignore the signs, that can make you look stupid.
If the persons fine with letting you go then so be it, why do you want to fight so hard to have some one with such a negative personality at times to taint your life? Make your life harder , don’t get me wrong it may hurt depending on the level you think you now the person , or the person you expected them, or assumed for them to be , but you will heal. It just gives you more time to get your self into a position to make better choices with the moral compass you follow become the person you needed or wanted to look up to as a child. If some one wants to leave your life let them… Be strong tell your self yes it hurts but maybe its time I built more love for my self, to share with others that are bringing positivism into your life rather than dragging you down… but the people that left your life you have to be the “bigger person ” over look the stuff they may have done to hurt you and forgive them not necessarily for them, but for yourself. Just have to let them know they may have been going through a hard time but what they did hurt and you don’t have room in your life for someone that would do that with the intent they had toward at the time.
Do you have a grudge ? No ( you just don’t have room in your life for those types of morals )
To each their own, only you know much you can handle and what you’re willing, or not willing to put up with.
Real questions is when are you going to draw the line for your happiness, and when are you going to start moving around the negative bumps in the way …